January is a great time for new beginnings, resolutions and fresh starts. I am sure many of you have written out or thought about some of the many things you would like to accomplish this year, am I right? How many of you have made declarations with some pretty big goals, goals that you have always wanted and have no idea how they are going to manifest and are extremely motivated to manifest them this year? My hand is right up there with you.
Here is the deal though. I bet some of you have also experienced the internal dialogue that likes to sabotage your efforts called the imposter syndrome.
What is the imposter syndrome you ask? It is that part of you that says, “Who do you think YOU are wanting that?” “What makes YOU think that you can HAVE that?” Any of those sound familiar? When you step into new territory and desire massive change this can occur and the list of interrogation questions can go on. As a former Private Investigator you can imagine what my internal questions were for myself, so from my heart I empathize with you.
The reason why this can be debilitating is that this ‘syndrome’ can stop you in your tracks, especially if you give into fear, doubt, other negative emotions and the list of limiting beliefs that like to partner up with those juicy negative emotions. To put it directly it has the capability of interfering with your success, goals, wishes and dreams. While there is a perfectly metaphysical, esoteric reason why this dialogue occurs (which is another discussion) to make things simple it is matter of resolving internal conflict and raising up your vibration of congruency, confidence and letting go of what no longer serves you. Please keep in mind that emotions are wonderful and fabulous, I ask that you love yours as I honor mine with the greatest respect. It is only when you have a build up of negative emotions that you have to clean house so that you can see and react more clearly, make sense?
I know you are aware that we have two minds; the conscious and the unconscious and guess what? All learning, behavior and change occurs at the unconscious level and that is 90-95% of who you are. So while logically you may understand and choose certain things, which let me remind you is 5-10% of who you are, there is that other part that actually runs the ship. When I use hypnosis in some of my sessions I like to use this analogy to help explain what I mean.
Imagine if you would, a beautiful ship at sea and aboard are a captain, her crew and they are heading towards adventure and seeking out new lands and opportunities. The captain leads and the crew follows by guiding the ship whichever direction the captain tells them too. However, lately on the ship there has been talk among the crew and they are disappointed with how the captain has been handling certain situations and since they are larger in number they are planning to rebel. This is called mutiny. When this occurs the ship might not move at all, get at lost at sea or head in directions not chosen by the captain. In life your conscious mind, which is 5-10% of who you are, is the captain. Your unconscious mind, which is 90-95% of who you are, is the crew. The key thing is that you must have these two in alignment in order to get to your desired destination.
Now you might be saying, great Makayla I get what you are saying and now what? What can I do to guide my ship? Well my answer is simple. Start becoming aware of what you are saying to yourself. Deepak Chopra has said that, “Every cell in your body is eavesdropping on your thoughts.” Pay attention. You have more power in what you create then you could even possibly imagine.
I do suggest that you seek out the necessary ways to shift your mindset, like a coach or mentor (I would love to work with you if we are a fit), books, trainings, audios and the list goes on. There are so many resources that can assist. Awareness is one of the greatest steps to correct a pattern and guide your sails in the desired direction. In my expert opinion that is bravest step of all.
Some action tips to get started on your own:
- Become aware and take responsibility.
- Seek tools to help guide you. (coach, mentor, books, trainings, workshops etc)
- Take action and repeat until new patterns are created to make it permanent. Practice doesn’t make perfect, practice makes permanent.
- Honor, be kind and forgive yourself in the process.
The truth is that you are meant to shine in all your glory because in doing so you actually help others do the same. So let’s look at the imposter syndrome from another perspective as it’s just really an obstacle of moving through something uncomfortable, and when you get more confident and congruent that simply disappears and you are left standing solid. The internal dialogue may actually even shift to cheering you on!
In order to get to the next version of yourself you do need to move through this temporary situation. Think of the caterpillar becoming a butterfly. And remember, why not you? You are worthy of accomplishing your dreams!
“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.” – Henry David