Why S.M.A.R.T. goals don’t work.

The reason why S.M.A.R.T. goals don’t often manifest is because of unconscious conditioning, what you focus on and how you write them.
One thing that most people fail at when they write goals is to attach amazing rewards to the outcome and as adults we suck at this. Yes, we do and I had to retrain myself as it is a skill. Children on the other hand are magnificent at capturing the magic of this. For example if you tell a child that if they do well at school you will take them to Disneyland, more often than not that child will excel in order to get that goal. Now take someone who writes a goal and their reward is paying off bills, and taking care of other responsibilities. Does that sound exciting to you?? The reward has to fill you with pleasure and motivation in order to sustain momentum and one has to fully grasp that 5%-10% of us is conscious, that is the goal setter in our mind. The other 90- 95% of us is unconscious, the goal getter, and this part of our mind is developmentally like a 5-7 child. While pain might be a great initial motivator to get your butt moving, you have to be able at some point turn the outcome of pain into pleasure or else your momentum might slow down and your goal won’t manifest. Make sense?

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The Imposter Syndrome

January is a great time for new beginnings, resolutions and fresh starts. I am sure many of you have written out or thought about some of the many things you would like to accomplish this year, am I right? How many of you have made declarations with some pretty big goals, goals that you have always wanted and have no idea how they are going to manifest and are extremely motivated to manifest them this year? My hand is right up there with you.

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Help I am facing an Obstacle!

I woke up this morning on a mission. I had one of those ‘falling down flat on my face moments’ along my path. The interesting is that you have the choice to look up once you have landed and are eating dirt. So many people think they have little power in their life. I am telling you; you do. And you can actually build with soil, as everything is useful in some context. Falling comes with a lesson if you choose to learn from it.

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How to build confidence

I wish I could tell you that there is a magic pill, a specific recipe that will get you all the self confidence in the world in an instant. What I can tell you are specific elements that can contribute to your personal self confidence when learning something new by understanding learning curves, would that be of value?
To begin with, let me first share a brief history of where I started in order for you to get a grasp on why I can speak to you on this. I used to be a painfully shy girl that hardly spoke. I was awkward, gangly, had a uni-brow a mullet and wore coke bottle glasses (even though I didn’t need them).

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Why Jealousy is a Good Thing

When I first starting really diving into courses in personal development, I remember sitting in a training pen in hand eagerly waiting for tasty morsels of information to be spoken that I would transmit to paper to devour later. As a student of life I love to learn. While I have now forgotten the topic that was being taught, the presenter said something specific that has stuck with me since then. While I am paraphrasing he said something like, “jealousy is often an indicator we have to take action on something”. I said to myself, “what???”

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The Secret of Successful People

One of my favorite audios that I listen to weekly is “The Strangest Secret” by Earl Nightingale.
Part of it is because I love his classic voice. When I listen to him I am taken the era of the 1950’s where films like On the Waterfront, and Sunset Blvd illustrated popular culture with the classic feel of film noir and mystery. Their rich cinematic voices resonated on such a deep level with clean, crisp language. Black and white film was filled with depth, shadows and their movements were poetic. This feel also carried into television and radio. Most importantly when Earl speaks he uncovers something that every successful person on the planet practices.

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Improve Intimacy in your Relationship. What is your Love Strategy?

The past couple of months I have been reflecting back on my life and relationships to get a better understanding of myself and who I brought into the union and the reasons why they ended. It’s been a fascinating and humbling experience. With extreme curiosity I have been dissecting them using many of the tools of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) specifically Love Strategies. I also had some great conversations with some friends this month regarding this so I am fulfilling my promise to write about it.
So what is a love strategy?
The central idea is that all of us want to feel loved in some way and have different ways (aka strategies) of communicating and receiving it. That being said, can you being to understand how important this can be in relationships?

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Can you brainwash people with Hypnosis?

Can you brainwash people with Hypnosis?
The reason why I am posting this is for clarity and to explain the difference between brainwashing and hypnosis. Let me first explain to you the 5 steps needed in order to brainwash, that way you will understand why hypnosis does not fall into the brainwashing category. These are the 5 steps.

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Is NLP Manipulating

When I first started my studies in NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and people learned about what I was doing this was a common question and assumption. The misconception is understandable with the misinformation out there, so let’s look at two ways an individual can use these tools: 1)Manipulation 2)Influence.

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